Last week, a fan of the Scottish synthpop circle Chvrches got a bit more than he bargained for when he yelled to the stage.

“Marry me! ” an unidentified boy wailed out during a pause between songs.

“Pardon? ” Chvrches singer Lauren Mayberry answered, inspiring “the mens” to shout out, “Marry me! Now! ”

Mayberry told the person off, which led to sections with titles like “Watch Chvrches’ Lauren Mayberry Put Marriage Proposing Fan In His Plaza” and “CHVRCHE’S Lauren Mayberry destroys heckler who asks her to marry him.”

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But what’s the big deal? It’s not like he was serious. Well…

No, I sincerely doubt that “the mens” in the crowd expected Mayberry to throw down her microphone and jump into his arms. Him adding “marry me” was likely more of a stand-in for “I like your music and respect you as a human being with frontier! “( OK, maybe not that last fleck .)

It’s more complicated than that.

If you are familiar with a bit more about Chvrches’ backstory, Mayberry’s response makes a lot of sense.

Throughout the band’s career, Mayberry has been outspoken against music manufacture sexism and online molestation .

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In 2013, Mayberry posted a screenshot of a content sent to the band’s Facebook page that spoke, “Could you extend this mail on to the cute singer, I think we’d oblige superior love together, and very much is intended to take her to dinner.” After reacting, “No. That’s disgusting, ” Mayberry was told it was a “very puritanical stance” to take.

Her response was simple: “Please stop casting us emails like this.” In reaction, she received a batch of answers containing threats, twisted sexual fictions, and general neglect for her existence as a human. That month, she pencilled an sentiment slouse for The Guardian, “I will not accept online misogyny.”

“But why should wives ‘deal’ with this? “

Her post at The Guardian was a strong rebuttal to anyone who has ever informed her( or any female musician, for that are important) that she should just “deal with” molestation .

“I utterly had recognized that in this industry the issue is explain and criticism. There will always be bad reviews: such is the nature of a free press and free speech . … What I do not accept, nonetheless, is that it is all right for people to oblige observations arraying from ‘a bit sexist but generally harmless’ to openly sexually aggressive . That it is something that ‘just happens.’ Is the casual objectification of women so commonplace that we should all exactly suck it up, roll over and countenance overcome? I hope not. Objectification, whatever its pattern, is not something anyone “re going to have to” ‘just deal with.’

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Years afterward, the molestation continues. But Mayberry isn’t giving up.

Earlier this year, Mayberry posted another screenshot of a content to be presented to one of the band’s social media accountings on her personal Instagram page. The content, in which an anonymous voice from the Internet threatens to sexually assault Mayberry with a cheese grater, was posted alongside Mayberry’s forceful reaction.

“My band is luck enough to have some of “the worlds largest” breathtaking, supportive and respectful devotees in the world and we are so excited to be in the studio making an album to share with them. Yet, on a daily basis, we still receive communications like this. These people never learn that violence against women is inappropriate. But they likewise never just knowing that wives will not be shamed and silenced and made to disappear. I am not going anywhere. So creating it on , motherfuckers. Let’s see who blinks first . ”

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So, in hindsight, perhaps shrieking “Marry me! ” at Lauren Mayberry wasn’t best available theory.

The boy may have necessitated well, but combined with the sexualized themes from other devotees and reviewers alike, it creates an atmosphere of uncomfortable, unwanted observations. It’s a lot like street molestation: While the intention might have been to “compliment” someone, the effect can be something so completely different.

Watch Mayberry’s showdown with the “Marry me” guy in the video below.

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